Kali Evolution: Childhood to Old Age
NATIONAL JOURNAL OF HOMOEOPATHY 2001 Mar / Apr VOL III NO 2.
Dr Vishpala Parthasarathy
'Kali
Childhood
A joint family with many children, one of them Grandmother's pet, getting things surreptiously.
At first it is a game and he enjoys the privileged feeling, but what is the fun if he could not tease others? He had been warned not to tell and not to share and had to keep it a secret. Gradually the habit of getting firmed up. He learnt only to take, never to give. His demands increases and with it, his attachment to self.
Similarly, at one stage, every child is made to think he is the centre of the universe. But gradually the universe expands and learns to respects the rights of others. Not so for the Kali.
He continues to remain not only the centre of his own world, but also of the whole universe.
Demands increase till they are difficult to meet. He reacts with anger. To punish the non-obliging Mother, he doles out spasms, stuttering, night-terrors and bed-wetting, which quickly brings her to heel.
Normally a child learns to give while making friends. Our Kali skips this step. Everything comes to him ready-made, pre-digested.
School: Typically lazy, dread of all the labour with attachment to self, makes him dependent on others! For Kali: everything comes ready made. He thinks it is the norm. He does not realize he has to pay to get. Things are different in school. No grandmother. The child has to learn to fight to get what one wants. But Kali never learned to fight. He started with a handicap and his physical weakness does not allow him to be able to fight. Can Kali be a Bully? No. It requires brute physical strength with the child opposite him weak enough to be bullied.
Rather Kali gets bullied. He does not like this role. How to get out? He is bright, though sometimes misdirected. He complains to the teacher. The teacher helps him fight his battles. Other children ostracize him. This is the beginning of his fear, anxiety, hostility, quarrelsome nature and suppressed anger. He reacts by getting an attack of Asthma, to get attention and make the child, the teaser, feel guilty.
Guilt plays a major role in the Kali picture. Several rubrics deal with this esp in Kali-br.
Respiratory ailments always trouble him, esp when the fear and anxiety of exams rule uppermost.
At home he takes it out on parents by
- obstinacy/ weeping
- quarrels/ rage
- frustration
- passive resistance and
- refusal to eat!!
Rubrics
- Aversion
- Devotedly attached children, become quarrelsome - Kali-iod3
- Moaning - Kali-br2; Kali-c3; Kali-cy1; Kali-iod2; Kali-mur1; Kali-phos1
Kali Evolution: Adolescence
Being alone produces fear; Kali hates to be alone and needs people. Now he has learnt to fawn, but for a purpose. Gives but only to take. He develops it into an ART-form. Needs scores of friends to fill up every waking moment. Hail-well-met fellow; Witty; Bright; Friendly; Fully turned on Kali charm is a magnet, which no one can escape even when it hurts.
Every child is transparent and selfish. But The Kali Mantra is
I want, so I am nice.
After I get, I shall be bad.
Becomes pronounced in teenage and hurtful when he applies it to girls.
Rubric: wants people, but treat them outrageously.
Touched, emotional aversion to being: Kali-carb3; Kali-iod2
Physical Inability 
heightened imagination.
Fantasies: sexual, voluptuous dreams, debility and anxiety seen in dreams: falling and robbers.
Very unhelpful at home. To go to market for bread and eggs, he fusses over the shopping bag! Mother spends 5 minutes hunting for a bag to meet his standards. Very fastidious. Keeps cupboard in order. Hates anyone borrowing his shirt, but he will take his father’s without telling. Till Father discovers it next time with a tear! Once again mother has to soothe the crisis.
Kali Evolution Adulthood
His intelligence shows! He is now a doctor and has to wait for patients. Next moot question every day is: How to pass the time? All alone?
Orders innumerable cups of tea. Each time spends 5 minutes talking to the delivery boy.
The impression created: What a friendly doctor! He has no airs - is the general opinion. But wait. Let his practice establish and he becomes a busy doctor. Now let that same delivery boy come for a problem and see the cold stare with a 'take-an- appointment-look'.
The apt Hindi word is 'matlabi'
A Professional incident: His friend has become a dentist and requires help to set up. No chance. He won’t help him, so fearful he is of competition. But after being in practice for 10years, how can a newcomer be a threat to you? Is that not insecurity?
His wife dies. Unfortunately. He stays day and night in the hospital and is very attentive. More attention given in that 1 month than he showered all his life on her. Every one says what a caring husband!
Worried3. She used to work too and bring in the lola. Fortunately she gave him the best gift of all - his flat came from her company allocations. He has 2 children aged 10 and 5. Within 15 day of her death he says, I cannot manage alone. My friends are saying I should marry again!! And he does. Within 2 months!!
Very selfish; unconcerned about the emotional state of the children. They could not understand the sudden change in life. And in case they were taught otherwise, he moved them away from their maternal grandparents.
Their sadness brought out the worst in him; made him irritable and violent; children hated that, so quickly adjusted.
A merry widower - distinguished looking. Never without an elegant woman on his arm. His past ensures him a steady supply. His children visit occasionally and he complains about the last Sundays missed call. Always has a grouse. Rarely a cheer, except when focus of attention at a party.
Dislikes living alone. May even marry to get himself a companion - a wealthy widow. Happiest when being praised - "how well you live on your own! Manage the house so well!" Lung problems increase- chronic bronchitis and emphysema - hacking nights and early mornings, but better in the day. Night hides his problems - so no one comes to know.
If continues to live alone, he becomes a cantankerous, grouchy old man. If does get a caring old widow, who is a Calc, he then settles down to a graceful old age, except for occasional rude behaviour. Likes music programs, outings and parties. And finally, if his Homoeopath, finds the simillimum and administers, he may even be truly happy.
Kali gives vitality and stamina to the body, espescially muscles. Helps in assimilation of proteins and organic salts. Maintains alkalinity, increases oxidation, increases recuperative powers, stability and lost emotions.
If this really should come to pass, then the children will not recognize this caring father. Truly interested in them and really listening to them. Able to receive and focus on their talk and jokes and problems. Earlier he was only waiting for an opening to give his grouses. Their visits increase, because now both enjoy others company. Homoeopathy has given them a real evolved father.
If not, the twilight years are best spent in the company of friends who have survived his onslaughts. Children leave him well alone, because they can never match up to his expectations.
And anyway he is happier that way. He does not want to look so old as compared to his children. As long as they send him nice things to eat and wear, and call him up and say NICE things, he is happy. The wife and friends take care of the rest.
