And They Lived Happily Ever After
NATIONAL JOURNAL OF HOMOEOPATHY 1997 Mar / Apr VOL VI NO 2.
Dr [Ms] Chetna Shukla
'So goes the myth of loving each other. The fantasy that being in love and forming relationships based upon love will solve life's problems and provide us with well deserved instant and everlasting reality is too often fierce.....' These are the words of Leo Buscaglia, the author of the book LOVING EACH OTHER.
This is very true for individuals with a Mag personality. They believe in this myth. They forget that when you love someone you don't love them all the time in exactly the same way, the same quantity, in the same intensity. Their demand in any of their relationship is for a continuous free flow of love in duration, in quantity and intensity. But this is not humanly possible. It is not an easy task for the other person in the relationship to keep loving them all the time. It is not possible for anybody to give their undivided attention to just one person who cannot comply with the emotional demands of the Magnesium. The relationship thus ends in disillusionment.
How this myth surrounds our Magnesium is the question to be answered. This can be answered if we study the prime function of Magnesium in nature. Books on physiology write that the cytoplasm of all cells contain mitochondria. These mitochondria are responsible for cellular respiration. Magnesium is the chief constituent of them and it helps in various oxidative processes, for example in oxidative phosphorylation which ultimately produces ATP which is the main source of energy. Thus producing mechanisms of life required both to maintain and continue life.
At the emotional level the fundamental emotional energy to maintain and continue life is love. Love is the only emotion we rely on for our joys and our most significant growth. It is known to all of us that it is very essential for a newborn to have the feel of human touch, child is retarded and if the child is left totally untouched and uncaressed, the child can also die.
Magnesiums feel this very fundamental emotional energy of life, love, denied to them in all their relationships and hence the feeling of being forsaken, being involved is the prime emotional symptom in the diseased state of magnesiums. All other feelings are secondary to this feeling of being unloved. This feeling can surface in the individual at any time in his life time, or it can present in them since the time of conception when the parents of the unborn Magnesium did not want to continue the pregnancy for some reasons and the newborn expresses this feeling of being unloved in the form of total intolerance of milk. Clarke writes it is a remedy for children who are puny and sickly; who refuse their milk and get pain in the stomach if they take it, diarrhoea, colic, stools green like the scum of a frog pond, jelly like lumps, aphthae, marasmus, Mag-c is a sovereign remedy. This refusal, intolerance, and aggravation from milk is an expression of the child to show his desire not to continue his existence in a world where he feels unloved.
In the adult this demand for a continuous flow of love ALL the time, when not met with the supply can be expressed verbally as a feeling of being friendless, or feeling like an orphan. This can also be seen in the expressions of the subconscious, the dreams of being lost in the forest or being lost at home.
One dream is: body: hair, obliged to dress hair in the company. The phrase to let one's hair down in public means to abandon restraint, to behave freely. The dream therefore means that the Magnesium is compelled to abandon the restrain on, to behave freely, to express the emotions freely in the dream. The vital force is asking the individual through the dreams, the mirror to one's self, to abandon the restraint. This restraint is often talked in various books as repression which means to check, to restrain, to actively exclude from conscious awareness.
Why this repression? The word of love when felt rightly and expressed verbally is always spoken softly and shyly. We wait until people have died to express their value in our lives, to honour them publicly and to express love for them. All this is easy for us only posthumously. If it is so difficult for us as humans to openly and boldly express the positive emotions of love then our Magnesiums have no other choice but to repress their feeling of being unloved [The bold expressions of love are termed by us as amativeness, lascivious, lewdness].
The restraint on oneself makes life more difficult, it does not help her remedy her feelings of forsakenness, instead it worsens the situation for them. The Magnesium in the dynamic dose is the right remedy for them.
The credit of this understanding of Magnesiums is to all my patients with a mind of magnesium. A special mention of a young girl of 16 in the Xth standard with severe sinusitis and problems with her multitude of friends. She had lot of friends but she felt that she had nobody whom she can identify as her real friend, they would not comply to her schedule of timings of study planned by her for them. This depressed her and she decided that she will never have any friends. But this did not help her because she could not do without them. In the bargain she could not concentrate on her studies and was losing her precious time. She received Mag-mur 200 and she was better in a fortnight. In her follow-up she remarked 'Doctor, my problem was that I never considered my friends to have their own moods and feelings. Now I feel it does not make them any less a friend. If they don't comply with my demands. True friendship and love also need freedom. I was being too demanding with her....'
This understanding was grilled into her by the Magnesium in a dynamic dose. Her myth, her compulsion, her demand for a continuous flow of undivided love was corrected and she and her friends [they] lived happily ever after...
